Think with your brain, not your dick!
Think With Your Brain, Not Your Dick: How To Not Get Scammed on Tryst
By: Anonymous male client on tryst
Let me share a brief story about how to avoid getting scammed, because it almost happened to me. Thankfully, luck was on my side this time.
For a while, there had been a girl in her 20s advertising on Tryst that I was interested in seeing. Her name was Olivia. She didn't show her face — understandably so — but her body was undeniably attractive. Her profile was well-written and she came across as a real person. She was based in Boston, could host, and what really caught my attention were her rates. They were fairly low compared to others, which isn't automatically suspicious since providers vary widely in pricing, but it meant I could see her without breaking the bank.
I reached out and had what seemed like a normal interaction to set up a session. She required a deposit for new clients, which is standard, but she wanted it in Bitcoin. I told her I'd never used Bitcoin and didn't know how. After some back and forth, we settled on a payment method — she wouldn't accept Cash App, Zelle, or PayPal, which was odd, but eventually agreed to an Apple Gift Card. I sent her a $50 gift card as a deposit, she gave me the hotel address, and we agreed on a time. Everything seemed fine and I was excited.
The next day, as I was heading out, I texted to let her know I was on my way. She replied saying she doesn't accept cash from new clients and that I'd need to cover the full remaining balance with another Apple Gift Card. This caught me off guard — I'd assumed the gift card was just for the deposit and the rest would be cash. But since I was already driving, I stopped at an Apple Store and bought a $150 gift card to cover the full payment.
I arrived at the hotel, parked, and waited in the main lobby. She texted asking for a photo of where I was, which I sent. Then she asked me to send a picture of the gift card, code visible. I did. She said she'd check it, and after a few minutes came back saying the balance was showing as $0. I was confused — I had the receipt right in front of me. She even sent a screen recording of her phone attempting to check the balance, showing nothing.
I asked if she had tried redeeming it first. She said no. I explained that you have to redeem a gift card before the balance shows, just like any other gift card. Feeling suspicious, I redeemed it myself to verify — and immediately saw $150 added to my Apple account. The card was perfectly fine. When I showed her, she accused me of lying and said she wouldn't come down to meet me since I had "added the card to my balance." She then said I was wasting her time and told me to leave.
I pushed back: I had sent the $50 deposit, bought the $150 card, sent her the photo with the code, and only redeemed it because she told me the balance was $0. The remaining balance was in cash — something most providers happily accept. She didn't respond after that. I waited another 15 minutes just in case, then left.
As I said, luck was on my side. The $150 was still in my Apple account, so I really only lost the initial $50 deposit plus gas and time — it could have been much worse.
I'm sharing this because you have to be careful out there. Tryst doesn't verify every account, and there are scammers operating on the platform. As men, it's easy to get caught up in the excitement and let your guard down when you're eager to have a good time — but you have to think with your brain, not your dick. Verification should go both ways. The provider should be willing to confirm they're the person in their photos, especially when no face is shown.
In this case, the red flags were all there: she refused cash, insisted on untraceable gift card payments for the full amount, and never agreed to a quick phone call or FaceTime to verify herself. She was almost certainly not in that hotel — possibly not even in the country — likely running the scam overseas using stolen photos and a hijacked or fake profile.
How To Verify a Provider
FaceTime or video call — best way to confirm she's real and matches her photos
Brief phone call with a real-time photo — ask her to send a photo of herself holding something specific, in the moment
The Erotic Review — search her name or email to find legitimate reviews from other clients
Trust your gut — if she's too busy for five minutes to verify herself, she may not be worth your time
Red Flags To Watch For
Requests for gift cards as payment (a classic scam method)
Refusing to accept cash
Refusing or avoiding a quick verification call
Insisting on Bitcoin or other untraceable payment methods
Demanding large deposits upfront — $50 is reasonable; more than that, especially for a local meet, is a warning sign
Never share your credit card information
Stay smart, stay safe, and have fun.